This guide will give you the tools and resources you need to understand how to get over your ex-girlfriend fast. The secret, as you’ll soon see, is understanding where you’re at right now, what you need to do and why.
Sometimes a little work needs to be done on the emotional baggage that many carry after a relationship breakup. I’ll show you how to quickly determine how ready you are and whether you need to address some inner issues first.
I will also give you the most important next step once you decide you’re ready to get this nailed.
By the end of this article you’ll have a good handle on the right way to approach this, as well as some free resources.
Here’s what we’re going to cover in this training:
- how do you move on from a relationship?
- how do I let go of the past and move on?
- find out if you’re ready to move on with this quick test
- what if you still love your ex or feel jealous or angry that she’s moved on?
- what if you’ve been trying to get over your ex girlfriend for a long time?
- putting it all into context
- the first thing you need to do right now
Before we dive into the content, let me give you some resources that will help you get over an ex:
How do You Move on From a Relationship?
The real answer is by making changes. The trick is knowing what changes to make, when and why. I say when because there’s a certain order in which you should do each step if you want to get over her in an efficient way. One reason for some people struggling with this process and taking a long time to get over an ex is that they leave it to guesswork and end up doing only some of the things required and in any order.
Don’t be that person.
This guide is based on The Breakup Book, which contains the step by step plan. There is plenty of psychology behind this well thought-out process and it’s designed to help you move on from the past quickly and in the easiest way.
Let’s get one thing clear: tips to get over your ex are not enough. If you’re struggling to get a handle on this after months or years, then you already know deep down that searching for tips is a waste of your time.
If you’re finding it hard to move on, then you also know that if you keep doing the same things you’ve been doing up to now is not going to help. Change is needed. Period.
How do I let go of the past and move on?
Now we’re getting a little bit more specific. Good. The past is what we want to move on from. Now, let me put something to you that you may not find so pleasing…
You are the reason you’re not moving on from the past
Absorb this for a moment. Your ex is not physically stopping you from doing anything. You are. So your first question should be why is it taking so long to get over her? What is it that you are hanging on to? And why?
The answer to that is usually a blank. Some guys seem unable to get over an ex girlfriend for one or more of the following reasons:
- you have no actual plan to get over your ex girlfriend, so you do nothing
- you hang on to the past, glorifying the good times and forgetting the bad times
Find out if You’re Ready to Move on
The first thing to do is to assess where you’re at right now. If you have some baggage to deal with, then you’re not ready to move until you deal with the baggage, so reading all the articles and tips you can find is not going to be a good use of your time right now.
Here’s how to tell if you’re really ready to move on from your past: listen to what you think. What you think and how you ask questions will tell you whether you’re ready or not. You should be asking questions like:
- what’s the easiest way to get over an ex girlfriend?
- what’s the quickest way to get over an ex girlfriend?
- how to get over my ex girlfriend for good
Those are all examples of action questions. This kind of question means you’re ready; you’re asking for the formula, the steps. If you’re fed up with feeling like this and want to skip all the research and the advice and you just want an easy to follow plan, then the Breakup Book will give you that plan: it’s a 7 step systematic approach designed to help you on the way to moving on from the past.
The book was originally called how to get over your ex girlfriend and did the rounds for years. This is the revised edition for 2017 and beyond.
Watch the videos below to get a good idea of whether you are ready to move on:
Things to do to Get Over an Ex Video
How to Get Over a Breakup Quickly Video
What’s the Fastest Way to Get Over a Breakup Video
If you think you’re ready to move on, then hit the free training that shows you the very first thing you need to do to get over your ex girlfriend.
What if You Still Love Your Ex or You Feel Jealous or Angry That She’s Moved on?
If this is where you are, then this is precisely the reason why you’re not ready to move on. You are hanging on to the past.
The real issue is you. You have emotional issues that you need to overcome. The reality is that what your ex does or doesn’t do has nothing to do with you. so why are you stressing over it? She doesn’t belong to you and you don’t own her, therefore you have no business suffering over what she does or doesn’t do.
The problem is you and you need to address this by coming to grips with reality. Do this and do it quickly because it will only harm you. You need to become emotionally mature and stable in order to disengage, and the first step to that is to understand fully that you do not own another person.
As in the above step, listen to how you think. If you’re asking questions like the ones below, then you know you have an issue to fix within yourself:
- will I ever get over my ex girlfriend?
- I really need to get over my ex girlfriend
- struggling to get over my ex girlfriend
The videos deal with this state of mind:
How to Get Over Your ex Being With Someone Else Video
I Need to Get Over My Ex Video
How to Deal With Breakup Pain Video
You should now see that the way you think is actually a reflection of your state of mind. You’re either acting like somebody who wants to get something done, or like a victim. Don’t be a victim, because this will keep you right where you are, in breakup hell.
But What if You’ve Been Trying to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend For a Long Time?
I often come across questions like this:
- can’t get over my ex girlfriend after 6 months
- can’t get over my ex girlfriend after 1 year
- can’t get over my ex girlfriend after 2 years
Sometimes I see as much as 5 years. This is something that needs to be addressed immediately. Somebody who has been struggling to get over an ex for a long time is somebody who has probably done very little other than mope. This may sound harsh if this is you, but you need to ask yourself what you’ve actually done to fix this and answer honestly.
My first question would be: how much have you invested (time or money) on getting this fixed? If somebody is offended by that question, then the reality is that they don’t want to help themselves and they care very little about their well-being. Investing in a book, a course, even a psychiatrist, costs of course, but how much is 5 years of your life worth?
A book – any book, not just mine! – is usually the costs of 2 or 3 coffees. If you’re struggling with something and you have the choice of buying a shortcut then you owe it to yourself to do so in order to move on.
If you prefer not to, then be prepared to invest your time piecing everything together. Nothing is free: you either spend time or money. Not spending either will get you nowhere fast.
Watch the videos below to get some perspective on this:
How to Get Over a 5 Year Relationship
How to Let go of Your Ex
Putting it All Into Context
Recovering from a broken relationship and moving on can be as simple or as complex as you want it to be. Your own ‘thick skin’ determines a lot how well you will cope with this, as well as your particular circumstances.
In this guide I’ve shown you how to assess where you’re at, whether you’re actually ready to move on or whether you have some work to do clearing up some emotional baggage.
In either case, The Breakup Book gives you an actionable 7 step plan you can follow easily and without having to think. It’s a ‘join the dots’ approach.
The First Thing You Need to Do Right Now
Hopefully you’re at a point where you are truly fed up with feeling down and you really want to get over her. The next step is to hit the free training, which will show you the first step in getting over your ex.
Go through the training: it’s short, it’s quick and it’s free.
Here’s a bunch of resources to help you: